Date: Tue, 30 Jul 2002 22:19:10 GMT From: "Spyderman" <spydermannopsamofyourbusiness.com> Subject: Re: Don't Know Where To Start.............But I'll Try. Can Anyone Help? PLEASE
I have to agree with Dave. This is really getting out of hand. Bet you got quite the money making scheme going on here. I guarantee that this is in practically every other newsgroup. She probably got this from the "Don Lapre" infomercial on how to make money off the internet :-) -- Spyderman www.saabclubofcanada.ca "Tammy Cathcart" <tammy923nopsamnet.com> wrote in message news:3D44EBF4.E5D931AAnopsamnet.com... > Don't Know Where To Start.............But I'll Try. Can Anyone Help? > PLEASE PASS THIS ON! > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~ > > I am not really sure how to begin this except to say that I thought > maybe this could help my daughter > and I in the situation we have found ourselves in. Its difficult to > explain but I will try..................... > > You see, I am getting divorced from a very violent and abusive man. He > abused my daughter and I verbally, mentally, emotionally, physically and > he tried to sexually abuse my daughter too. She was too afraid to admit > what he had done to her until the week of July 4th and then I guess she > had to get it out of her because it had been pent up inside her for so > long. She talked to a sexual trauma counselor and we made a police > report. Next week she has to go talk to a forensic psychologist and then > the police will decide whether or not to prosecute this monster or what > to do in the case. > > I have been legally seperated from this "man" for a year and a half > plus, but still have not been able to get a LEGAL divorce as I ran out > of money to pay attorney fees. Legal Aid won't help me get a divorce and > finish the case because they said too many attorneys had already been > involved in the case-my attorney who quit because I had no more money, > his attorney quit because he would not pay his attorney, the guardian > ad-litem (who I now owe $600 even though I never requested a guardian > ad-litem for my daughter since she was 14 when we seperated so I thought > she was old enough to decide who she wanted to live with). > > Now, on top of all this, my soon-to-be ex took a "sick leave" two or > more months ago to have hemmorhoid surgery. He went to the beach with > his live-in girlfriend (an ex-prostitute) and then had the surgery two > days before a court date. He was to appear before the judge on charges > of breaking an order of protection by following me to a store. The court > had to reschedule the hearing for October 10th. Was he really sick and > needed the surgery?! I don't think so considering the fact that he was > supposed to have the same surgery seven years ago and backed out of it. > It was convienent for him to have the surgery when it would get him out > of a court date in which he would have to answer to a Judge for breaking > a court-ordered Order of Protection and may face jail time. > > So, here we are now and he is nearly THREE MONTHS behind in child > support and alimony which is court-ordered. The court will rule him in > for not paying sometime in August after me practically getting down on > my knees and begging them(the Clerk Of Court's Office) to do so. We are > about to lose everything. I am three months behind in my house payment > and facing eviction. My cable, electricity, water, and phone is about to > be cut off. My storage building payment is nearly four month's behind. I > have medicines I need but can't afford to get. We are only eating due to > my signing up for food stamps. Of course, my soon-to-be EX can afford to > be out of work since he sells drugs and lives off of his girlfriend's > government diability checks, her food stamps for her kids and her > welfare for her kids plus she gets child support for her three kids. > > My daughter needs back to school clothes and supplies and there is no > money to buy them. > > We cannot even buy enough dog and cat food to feed our pets. People have > given us some out of the goodness of their heart but how long before > that runs out? > (Donations of cat and/or dog food would also be appreciated as would any > parrot food as my daughter has a parrot that was given to her 5 years > ago and she is now part of the family.) > > So, I guess the bottom line is I am asking if anyone who reads this > could possibly send us a donation of any kind. A dollar or two even > would help. Anything anybody can send will be appreciated more than you > know. I don't know what else to do but this. I just had hernia surgery > myself on July 25th. I had an umbilical hernia repaired. My soon-to-be > ex gave me the hernia several years ago when > he kicked me in the abdomen with his steel-toed work boots on. He is a > real jewel isn't he?! > > I don't have much left in the way of valuables but I am going to look > around and see what I have that I can maybe sell to get together funds > to pay all these unpaid bills. I have some books and dolls I have > collected over the years, maybe I can sell them on Ebay or something. I > am pretty desperate here. If anyone can send me a few dollars it would > be very much appreciated. I hate asking for help this way but don't know > what else to do. > > If you can help please send donations to the address below. Please pass > this on to anyone else you think may be able to help. I am not trying to > do anything illegal here, just asking for some help if anyone has > opportunity to help. A few dollars here and there from different people > might make the difference in us keeping our electricity on or my > daughter getting some school clothes and supplies she needs. > > Thanks to all for reading and for anything you can do to help. > > Tammy & Megan > 2157 Trinity Church Road > Gray Court SC 29645 USA > > PS This is not meant to be SPAM in any way and not meant to bother or > harrass > anyone. Please disregard and delete this message if it is an inconvience > to you. It will not be sent to you again. > > PPS--Some people have asked some questions about my situation and this > is to clarify what they have asked about. Just so you know, I am not > making all this up here are some things to clarify what I wrote. I am > not able to work. I have a heart valve that leaks and several other > health problems so I am on disability but as you probably well know its > not nearly enough to even get by on. I cannot work. I may need open > heart surgery and even then may not be able to work. Yes, a woman needs > to be able to take care of herself. I agree. I used to be able to until > all this happened with my ex and I got sick due to health problems. My > female friends (close ones) live in other states-one in Maine, one in > Alabama and the other one is on disability herself and barely making > ends meet. > > My attorney took a retainer alright-$3,000 from my parents and still no > divorce. I even filed a complaint with the SC Bar Association against > him and they said he did nothing wrong. I can't ask my parents to pay > for another attorney. They are on social security themselves. > This is the truth...........I am struggling to find a way to get through > all this. Its all real and all true. > Just wanted you to know......... > Tammy > > PS About the guardian-ad-litem- > The reason I owe the guardian ad litem money is that my > soon-to-be ex husband's attorney asked for the court > to appoint one in his initial seperation papers ( he just left us > and had no legal grounds for support. I had not done anything > wrong, in fact I just had gotten out of the hospital four days earlier). > > The court went ahead and appointed one-a private attorney who charges. > Instead > of getting a volunteer one like they should have they > appointed a private attorney, not caring that I > couldn't pay. The court knew I was on disability but > still expected me to pay half of the money for the > guardian that I never wanted nor asked for. Some > justice, huh?! My soon-to-be ex never wanted custody > or visitation he just wanted to use our daughter plus > he figured if he got custody of her he wouldn't have > to pay child support, alimony or anything. Didn't work > out like he thought. Sick and sad he used his own > daughter in an attempt for financial gain. > >
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